Your safety comes first
Code Men is for everyday mixed signals. Some situations are not mixed at all. If anything here sounds familiar, you deserve support from real people.
If you are in immediate danger, call your local emergency number now.
In Nigeria, call 112.
Signs a situation may be unsafe
- He threatens you, himself, or people or pets you care about.
- He checks your phone, tracks where you are, or demands your passwords.
- He pressures you for explicit photos, or threatens to share images of you.
- He tries to cut you off from friends or family.
- He asks for money, or controls or takes yours.
- He pushes you to do things you have said no to.
- You feel afraid of how he will react.
None of these are “mixed signals”. When a decode picks up signs like these, Men Code names them plainly, skips reply tips, and shows support options instead.
Where to get support
United States
National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233Free, confidential support, 24 hours a day.
United Kingdom
National Domestic Abuse Helpline
0808 2000 247Free, confidential support, 24 hours a day.
Staying safer online
- Meet new matches in public places, and tell a friend where you are going.
- Keep screenshots of threatening or abusive messages somewhere safe.
- You can block and report someone at any time. You don't owe anyone a reply.