Your safety comes first

Signs a situation may be unsafe

• He threatens you, himself, or people or pets you care about.
• He checks your phone, tracks where you are, or demands your passwords.
• He pressures you for explicit photos, or threatens to share images of you.
• He tries to cut you off from friends or family.
• He asks for money, or controls or takes yours.
• He pushes you to do things you have said no to.
• You feel afraid of how he will react.

None of these are “mixed signals”. When a decode picks up signs like these, Code Men names them plainly, skips reply tips, and shows support options instead.

Where to get support

Staying safer online

• Meet new matches in public places, and tell a friend where you are going.
• Keep screenshots of threatening or abusive messages somewhere safe.
• You can block and report someone at any time. You don't owe anyone a reply.